Let’s be honest: not everyone is ok with being single.
Before you start typing furiously away in the comments section, you should know that I don’t mean brief stints between coupledom; I mean months that stretch into years that stretch into decades spent by yourself. That’s a lot of date nights spent home alone, on the couch, remote in hand.
Sometimes singlehood comes as a surprise, sometimes it’s self-imposed. Either way, anyone who’s had a relationship end knows the work it takes to piece life back together; it never gets easier with time, we just get better at going through the motions, like hiding feelings of rejection and saving our cringiest bouts of self-loathing for days we’re sure no one’s watching. Those days — the ones when all you can do is set your breakup playlist to repeat and wail along to “Unbreak My Heart” — are enough to make you (or anyone, really) swear off dating and embrace singlehood.
It comes as no surprise to anyone that snglehood has a way of creeping up and biting you in the ass, and the triggers are ever present: holidays; any gathering where you are the third wheel (and your fledgling love life the elephant in the room); hell, even dining out alone can be met with marked questions concerning the must-be-late arrival of your date, since you couldn’t possibly be dining on your own. I mean…
Admittedly, loneliness lingers in the lives of those who are currently uncoupled (screw you, Hallmark movies!!!) but there’s an upside (discount chocolate on Feb. 15!!!).
Here’s to embracing the best part of being single. And yes, it’s all about you:
When you’re single, you get to make your own rules.
Seriously. The list of people you have to answer to is refreshingly short: boss, family, you. That’s it, that’s the list.
When you’re single, you’re in charge of your entire universe (and, most importantly, the remote).
Enjoy your freedom. See the world. Take a class. Better yet, take yourself out to dinner and celebrate, well, you. Because, hey, it’s good to be in charge of your entire domain.
When you’re single, you get to fall in love with yourself all over again.
We go through a lot in life and that makes it easy to forget how amazing we are. Make spending time with yourself a priority. Laugh at your own jokes. Take as long as you want getting ready. Go to a bar and sip martinis — by yourself. Being your own awesome best friend isn’t a bad thing.
Bottom line? Singlehood can be empowering. Embrace it when you have the chance.
Let every hair flip be fabulous.
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